Child vs adult

Do you know why kids are the easiest to love?

I think it’s because they are simple in how they think, feel and direct in expressing it. There is no hidden message, denial mode nor agenda on whatever they say.

You know what they want and what they dont and can give accordingly. It’s easy to interact because it’s so clear.

Recently i feel really drained. Of dealing with people who are tainted and is damnest hard to communicate and deal esp with in time when there is an issue.

It’s the most irony of how they complicate their life and issues with emotions and insist in claiming to be nonchalant. They will make a point and insist on it which makes it so painfully obvious

There is no need to pretend to be cool a out it when you are not cool about it.

Gotta pray for patience and grace for me to lean on and let them be. Trying my best to be understanding and tactful and cant help but to wish more people can be REALLY simple instead of just claiming.
Be honest and transparent. Be sensitive but not petty. Be nice not PR. Be real not fake. Be truthful on how you feel vs what claim. Isnt it so much better and easier?

Oh well, to each its own.. Everyone have their demon to slay. I’m getting more frustrated with how affected i am, just wish i can stop getting affected by all these murky toxic of others

heeh! just realize the sticker meant that woman always see themselves fatter 😓


Rick Warren’s Good Relationships Take Time

It’s true, all my heart’s questions can be answered by the bible. Rather brain dead at the moment but cant help keep reading over and over again.

Images of friends keep flashing across my mind. Incidents that trigger my doubts on friendship or who to keep and let go.

Aug 5, 2014
Good Relationships Take Time
by Rick Warren

A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity. Proverbs 17:17 (NIV)

Good relationships take time. They don’t happen by accident. They take cultivation, work, and time to build a deep connection with somebody. That requires commitment.

Proverbs tells us, “A friend loves at all times.” That means even when it’s inconvenient, when you don’t feel like it, even when they don’t deserve it, even at personal cost. That’s what real friendship is all about.

Friends are in your corner when you’re cornered. And they see you through when everybody else thinks you’re through. They walk in when everybody else walks out.

You don’t need many friends to make it in this world but you do need a few good ones. Focus on quality not quantity. You can have many acquaintances but that means nothing. The acquaintances are not going to be there in the crisis. They’re not going to be there when you need them. Friends will. And every important close connection begins with a commitment.

At every stage of your life you’re going to need these kinds of relationships. You’re going to need a group of people for different reasons in different ways. You need to get connected. You need people in your life. You say, “I don’t need them now.” You’re going to need them someday. You need to give and you need to receive.

Talk About It

What do you think of this quote from Larry Crabb: “When two people really connect, something is poured out of one and into the other that has the power to heal the soul of its deepest wounds and restore it to health. The one who receives, experiences the joy of being healed. And the one who gives, knows even greater joy of being used to heal.” (from Larry Crabb’s book, “Connecting.”)



Selfie (what used to be called camwhore) is the new name of the trend in taking self shots and with the rising of camera phones and photo apps, i think this trend will be a norm in future.

However the vibe i get from the social media is that it gives the vibe of being too much of a narcissistic, vain and even pathetic sometimes. Usually people poke fun of people who does it but the truth is, everyone does that!

So when I was clicking to this article that my friend had shared on her facebook about selfie, I thought it was another negative article.

But i was surprised, by dove again. Instead of focusing on negativity, these folks focus about how selfie make people realize how beautiful they really are

I really love this part which enlightened me

“…when they are insecure with things, those were the things that made them different. But the thing is that the things that made them different, made them unique and that is what made them beautiful”

and of course the way they end it with this beautiful statment which concludes the purpose of the ad.

“I think beauty is being strong, being brave and be happy with yourself”


desire to grow up together

Marriage, a bitter sweet topic.

At twenty six, working in a regional role means all your facebooks are full of weddings invite, proposal video, gushing of kids cuteness and love.

I have never gotten married but been and still going through one, a long painful one – my parents marriage. There a bitter taste when marriage is mention and living with someone forever… scares me.

Anyway i thought the summary of the below article is really good and while many keep seeking for their mr and mrs right, actually the key is to make it right.

Your spouse becomes your soul mate after you’ve made those vows to each other in front of God and the people who matter to you. You don’t marry someone because he’s your soul mate; he becomes your soul mate because you married him.

Marriage doesn’t require a big bank account, a dazzling resumé, or a televised wedding—it requires maturity, commitment, and a desire to grow up together.

– Julia (http://therealsingapore.com/content/i-got-married-23-what-are-rest-you-waiting)



George Carlin with his something to ponder

I was tagged in a post by Kat in facebook which shared a story.


George Carlin’s wife died early in 2008 and George followed her, dying in July 2008. It is ironic George Carlin – comedian of the 70’s and 80’s – could write something so very eloquent and so very appropriate. An observation by George Carlin:

The paradox of our time in history is that we have

taller buildings but shorter tempers,
wider Freeways, but narrower viewpoints.
We spend more, but have less,
we buy more, but enjoy less.

We have bigger houses and smaller families,
more conveniences, but less time.
We have more degrees but less sense,
more knowledge, but less judgment,
more experts, yet more problems,
more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly,

laugh too little, drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom.

We have multiplied our possessions, but reduced our values.
We talk too much, love too seldom, and hate too often.

We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life.
We’ve added years to life not life to years.

We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor.

We conquered outer space but not inner space.
We’ve done larger things, but not better things.

We’ve cleaned up the air, but polluted the soul.
We’ve conquered the atom, but not our prejudice.
We write more, but learn less.

We plan more, but accomplish less.
We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait.

We build more computers to hold more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion,
big men and small character,
steep profits and shallow relationships.

These are the days of two incomes but more divorce,
fancier houses, but broken homes.

These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer, to quiet, to kill.

It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete.

Remember to spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going to be around forever.

Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your side.

Remember, to give a warm hug to the one next to you, because that is the only treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent.

Remember, to say, ‘I love you’ to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

And always remember, life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by those moments that take our breath away.

George Carlin

i went yes! yes! yes! and i couldnt stop.
Wish words, valuable advise.
Read, learn, love and treasure


Filtering through

I was browsing through the usual social platforms and came across a not so nice sharing of thought by a friend. A friend i known to be nice but bitchy and really petty which i always erm…. try to keep a friendly distance whenever i can.

Jimmy spa

It just dawned to me how our character is like a filter. When an action or word like goes through us, how do we filter it? Is the processed water then now, purified or instead..dirtied ?

Jimmy spa 2

The processed water shows how clean our filter is, or how dirty it is and then it serves a great reminder to perhaps change it before we drown in our own mud and stink ourselves.

Jimmy spa 3

I want that water flowing out of me to be cleaner. 2013 – watch me!

Picture credits : http://www.facebook.com/jmy.spa/info


my bread and butter sharing

My bread and butter readings..

The bread (message from god, FB)

On this day of your life, Karen, we believe God wants you to know … that how bad things may look right now means nothing, – it’s how good they can be with God’s help that counts.

In life you can absolutely count on one thing, – everything can turn around in one day, in one minute sometimes. Don’t you dare to give up, – you might be a moment away from a windfall

And The butter (horoscope)

You should try to focus on your home and family life today, and you ought to be ready to make a few sacrifices if you’re asked to. If a few issues pop up with people who seem to be working against your interests, don’t worry. You’ll be able to resolve any problems that arise today as long as you have the right attitude.

Just be ready to demonstrate that whatever you’re doing is worthwhile today. No matter how things seem to test your resolve, if you can remember to keep an optimistic outlook and remain determined, everything will turn out just fine in the end. Mantra: A pure heart is the greatest weapon.

indeed! Be positive!
Throw away those emotions
Throw away those thoughts
A pure heart on the way!